Honor a Widow(er)

Many men and women have lost their spouse. Whether to war, cancer, suicide, or another way, it’s never easy to go through Valentine’s Day without their spouse. Seeing all the happy couples can be tremendously difficult.

As a military spouse, it’s difficult when my husband isn’t with me for Valentine’s Day; but I couldn’t imagine him not being here ever.

Here are some ways to honor a widow(er)…

1) Buy flowers/chocolates
2) Pay for a massage
3) Take them out for a special dinner
4) Surprise them with dinner at your/their house
5) Buy a gift card for their favorite store
6) Write them a letter and tell them what they mean to you
7) Give them a hug. A simple hug can go a long way!
8) Have a party/get together for all the widow(er)s
9) Pay for their groceries for a week
10) Offer babysitting so they can have some quiet time

There are many other ways to honor a widow(er) and make them feel special especially during a time when it’s all about couples. Get creative!


Why I Adore Valentine’s Day!

February is officially here! I’m ecstatic! During the month of February is a holiday that I love because it’s celebrating love! I love Valentine’s Day more than Christmas, and that’s saying a lot!

Many don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day because of it’s origins or commercialization. Who cares what the origins are. Who cares about the commercialization. Not this Mrs.!

I look forward to Valentine’s Day since December 26. No need to waste time here. I start preparing. Planning the menu. Planning our date night in. Planning our date night out. Planning the decorations. Fiercely digging all around the internet for fabulous Valentine’s Day ideas. Thank God for Pinterest even though I’m not a huge fan of it typically.

Last year, our apartment was lit with over 150 candles. Our favorite love songs played in the background. We ate my delicious sweet-n-sour chicken with Momma Wu’s eggrolls.

I can’t divulge this year’s secret plans because Mister will be reading this, and it’s a surprise as always! But I will say that we have at least two weeks of Valentine’s Day plans.

I love Valentine’s Day because of the love that fills the air. I welcome Valentine’s Day with open arms because if it reminds me to hug my husband a little tighter, to give him way more kisses than usual, to go above and beyond in caring for him, to love him more then I’m all for it!

Valentine’s Day is one of those maintenance times of year that I believe is essential to every marriage.

If you will, think of marriage like a car. A car needs maintenance often just like marriage. Filling up the tank can be the equivalent to date night. Valentine’s Day is like changing the oil. (Wait–did I just equate marriage to a car?!?!?! Mister is rubbing off on me, and that’s  not good! Haha!) I hope you get the picture.

I heard several times that the love shown on Valentine’s Day should be shown all year round, and I agree! But how often do we get caught up in life and forget to work on our love, the passion, for our spouse. Slow down. Take a day and remember why you love your spouse. Remember why God brought you together. Remember what vision you have for your marriage.

I love my wonderful husband more than I can ever describe, and Valentine’s Day is one of those times when I can do something really spectacular for him!


Do you celebrate Valentine’s Day? Why do you love it? Or not?

Christmas Blessings!

The whirlwind of Christmas is over. All of the presents have been opened. There are lots of leftovers in the fridge. Now, it’s relaxation time…

December 19

College and Career Class of Bethel Baptist Church Christmas party! It was a BLAST! We had a “white elephant” gift exchange and just fellowshipped. There was lots of noise, food, fun, and laughs! We are definitely looking forward to the next CCC gathering!!!

December 22

Christmas lunch with my in-laws! We received a weather radio as our emergency gift, a P. Graham Dunn picture which was absolutely stunning, and cash. We love P. Graham Dunn and have so much fun scouring their stores!

Us with my handsome Prince's parents and grandfather. I think that's a great picture for using self-time for the first time! LOL

Us with Mister’s parents and grandfather. I think that’s a great picture for using self-time for the first time! LOL

College and Career Class of BBC outing to Stan Hywet Hall. Stan Hywet Hall is an old mansion that is now a museum. Each room was decorated to a different Christmas song theme. After SHH, we went back to the church to wrap Christmas presents for the junior church.

Miss Tammy and I standing on a bench outside the Stan Hywet mansion trying to get super close to the heater (not pictured).

Miss T and I standing on a bench outside the Stan Hywet mansion trying to get super close to the heater (not pictured).

Santa and I at Stan Hywet Hall

Santa and I at Stan Hywet Hall

My handsome Prince and I wrapping gifts at BBC after Stan Hywet Hall.

Mister and I wrapping gifts at BBC after Stan Hywet Hall. Of course, he is making a funny face! LOL

December 23-Christmas Sunday at Bethel Baptist Church

December 23-Christmas Sunday at Bethel Baptist Church

December 24-I spent the morning baking doggie/cat treats for the spoiled animals to have on Christmas day. We went to my parents’ house in the afternoon to hang out, eat pizza, and have an Elfster gift exchange.

Just hanging out with the family.

Just hanging out with the family

December 25-CHRISTMAS DAY!!!!! *insert happy dance here*

Waking up early, we ran downstairs to open presents! Santa gave me movies, movies, movies! We had homemade cinnamon rolls for breakfast and got ready to go to my parents’ where we opened more presents. My parents’ got me a dress, guardian angel figurine and car charm, PJs, satin sheets, cloth napkins and a Juki sewing machine with lessons!!! I can’t wait to share all of my creations with you!!!

Christmas morning! Still sleepy-eyed but ready to open lots of presents!!!

Christmas morning! Still sleepy-eyed but ready to open lots of presents!!!

My new sewing machine! I'm so excited!!! (Man, why didn't anyone tell me my hair was a wreck?! LOL)

My new sewing machine! I’m so excited!!! (Man, why didn’t anyone tell me my hair was a wreck?! LOL)

Our semi-mini feast

Our semi-mini feast

Us before Christmas dinner! Yummy :)

Us before Christmas dinner! Yummy 🙂

We had a wonderful week spending time with family and most importantly celebrating Christ’s birth!!! Christmas is always an amazing time of the year!

Also, Santa and my parents’ got me another EPIC Christmas present, but you’ll have to wait until tomorrow to find out what it is…

Merry Christmas!

Merry Christmas!

Today is the day we celebrate the birth of  Jesus.
2,000 years ago there was no room for Him in the inn much like this world today.
Let’s make room for Him in our hearts!

Luke 2: 10&11
“And the angel said unto them, Fear not: for, behold, I bring you good tidings of great joy, which shall be to all people. For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Saviour, which is Christ the Lord.”

Luke 2: 13&14
“And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God, and saying, Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, good will toward men.”

Have a great Christmas with your family and friends!
Merry Christmas!

From God, with love

Yesterday morning’s church service, Pastor D preached about the greatest gift–Jesus. And with Jesus comes salvation.

Salvation isn’t a gift that will break in five minutes or deteriorate over time. The gift of salvation is everlasting, literally. We can never lose it, and God will never take it back.

Parents tell their children all year that if they’re good, they will get Christmas presents. Now, we know this is certainly unattainable. I mean come one! What child is good ALL. YEAR. LONG?! (Certainly not me!) God gave us His Son no matter our sinful condition just like any parent today gives Christmas gifts to their children.

God loves us so much He sent His precious Son for our icky sinful hearts so we can spend an eternity skipping (seriously, who is going to just walk) down streets of gold. I don’t know of any parent that would sacrifice their child for someone else. I certainly wouldn’t!

God gave us an eternal gift. Think about that…ETERNAL! Eternity is just something the human mind can’t fathom.

This gift of Jesus (Salvation) won’t break, deteriorate, or be destroyed. No one can take it away.

So, here ya go…God’s handing you Jesus–the greatest Gift–born in a manger.

From God, with love!

The War on Christmas

The cashier said, “Happy Holidays!” as we ran through the checkout line. Politicians say, “Happy Holidays!” after their speeches. Others say, “Happy Holidays!” to be sure not to offend. Pastors everywhere are preaching of the injustice because the government has taken Christ out of Christmas.

Are Christians being distracted by this argument and not truly celebrating Christ’s birth? Are Christians more interested in winning an argument than spreading the good news?

Putting the rights of oneself before the needs of others will hinder the name of Christ. We can’t force others to accept Christ nor do I want to.

Maybe if we showed the world Christ, we wouldn’t have to argue about being politically correct. Maybe if we showed the world Christ, we could live in peace. Let’s show the world why we celebrate Christmas. Let’s show the world what’s in our hearts. Let’s show the world love. Let’s show the world Christ!  No one can take Christ out of our hearts.